i need a new romance anime that makes me want to pull my hair off

These definitely fit the emotion you're describing; I know exactly what you're talking about. Whether you'll find them entertaining is another matter though, since if they don't manage to get you invested the emotions won't follow either. They did for me on my first viewings.

I saw your recent activity and went like, this person loves apothecary diaries, their probably craving a mystery as well. I'm so used to mysteries tricking me and causing me to second guess but this anime is a lot more straight forward than you think, in a good way

i recommend you read the manga on this one instead